Of all the relationships that defined her so short life princess Dianashe with her mother, Francis Sant Kidit remains perhaps the most complicated but also sad. Behind the smiles on Buckingham’s balconies and the images of the affectionate mother who tightly held her two sons – Prince William and Prince Harry – there was a personal family drama that unfolded away from the spotlight.
On June 10, 2004, on the secluded island of Seil, Scotland, Princess Diana’s mother was led to her last home. OR Francis Sad Kid died After a long battle with Parkinson’s disease and an aggressive brain tumor.
Beyond the great loss, few could ignore the sad irony: the woman who brought to the world the “princess of the people” did not even talk to her daughter when She was killed in Paris, Seven years earlier, on August 31, 1996.
In fact, mother and daughter had not spoken for months before the tragic and much -discussed car accident in Paris. The alienation, however, had begun much earlier. In particular, the The day when Diana married the – then prince – today’s King Charles.
The royal marriage of 1981 was presented to the world as a well -written fairy tale. For Diana, however, that day had already been darkened by the rehearsal night. In her testimony to the biographer Andrew Morton, she described how she felt deeply wounded and frustrated by her mother’s behavior:
«He was crying endlessly and told me he could not withstand the pressure. And I was the one who was marrying the successor of the throne! “
Diana thought Francis had left her just when a daughter needed her mother more than ever. According to what Morton recorded, her mother allegedly felt sidelined because she was not asked to participate in the wedding organization. From that day, their relationships froze for three to four years.
Diana knew firsthand the coldness of maternal abandonment. When she was 7 years old, Francis abandoned her husband, John Spencer, and left their children behind. The divorce that followed was tough and talked about.
The battle for the diligence It was particularly painful. Charles Spencer, Diana’s brother, remembers his little sister standing at the entrance of the house, waiting for their mother to return – in vain. “She had promised her to come to see her. Never came up ‘, has stated.
“Diana was sitting on the doorstep and waiting for her, but she never came. When she left, she promised her to come back to see her. Our father was a steady source of love, but our mother did not make motherhood … she couldn’t. He was in love with someone else. Blind. “
Francis had still acquired another son in 1960, who died ten hours after birth. The following year Diana came into the world and in 1964 the birth cycle ended with the coming of Charles’s life.
After her divorce, Francis married Peter Sad Kid, a wealthy businessman. Marriage opened new wounds. Her second marriage, however, was dissolved in the late 1980s – and she considered her daughter, Diana, responsible.
Her mother, as she used to say, felt that she was “living in the shadow of the princess”, and Diana’s promotion was a source of displeasure for her. “I was Diana’s mother, not his wife,” Francis told the Guardian after the separation.
Her daughter’s celebrity offered her no pride or stability. She faced her with new losses and intense feelings of depreciation.
The last phone call
After Diana’s divorce from Charles in 1996, the relationship with her mother led to the absolute rupture. Butler Paul Barel describes one of the last phone call between them as “stormy and destructive”.
Francis allegedly blamed Diana for the her erotic choices after the weddingspeaking derogatory about cardiac surgeon Hassnat Khan and businessman Goulou Lalvani. The princess closed the phone and burst into tears. Barrel found her on the floor, wrapped in a white bathrobe, crying alone.
The rift never healed. A few months before the accident in Paris, Francis had described “relief»Where her daughter lost the title of HRH (that high). It was the finishing blow. Diana never spoke to her again.
After Diana’s death, Francis retired from public life, embraced Catholicism, lived isolated and avoided any public reference to her daughter. Her grandchildren, William and Harry, remember her as polite and calm, very different from the image she was outward.
The tragedy of this tense and cracked relationship lies not only in alienation but also in the fact that these two women never managed to heal the wounds they inherited to each other.
Information from DailyMail